Closing doors

I am just back from a week of yoga in Greece with international yoga instructor Kathy Parsons (www.thesantoshalife.com).  She chooses the most beautiful places to host her retreats which filled with wellness and inspiration. What a great week of healing my body and mind from the stresses that work and travel sometimes put on me.  Since yoga and meditation are great triggers for personal reflection it was a week of great conversations. Much like my coaching clients, some of the people at the retreat were considering changes in their current life situation.  This led me to think about what interferes with the changes, or the new situations we desire, from manifesting in our lives.

Sometimes the perfect opportunity comes along making decisions around change relatively effortless. Unfortunately, most are people looking for change rather than allowing it.  This kind of change is more difficult because those seeking it are unhappy in their current situation. This changes the dynamics of the situation. In this state,  when options do arise decisions become confusing and difficult mainly because we are often not clear on what we really want. This lack of clarity together with being mentally and energetically tied to an unwanted situation will make moving forward quite difficult.  If we are running away from a situation rather than moving toward a clear goal it is unlikely we will be happy with the choices we make. Often we still have some things to bring to completion, leave behind or heal from before we will be ready to embrace a new challenge or opportunity.

Most people have heard of the expression “when one door closes another opens.” We sometimes refer to this saying when people have experienced some perceived loss as in losing a job or the end of a relationship. However, sometimes we need to close that door ourselves in order to allow another door to open or to be clear which new door to choose.  End the relationship you are in if you are unhappy and take the time to heal and grow from it before you go looking for something new. Or choose to stay and work through it. 

Sometimes you need to take care of other priorities before you are ready to move forward in your job or on a project you are working on. Maybe you need to work through past failures or disappointments before you can move forward with something new. It could even be something as simple as fully committing mentally to a goal rather than endlessly weighing the options. Sometimes committing to a choice even without taking any action will close doors for you and open new ones.

Interestingly,  taking the time to reflect helped me to realise there is also something in my life that I need to bring to a close so that I can move forward with something new.  I continue to grow just like everyone else So if your choices are difficult or unclear, or you find yourself ending up in a similar situation again and again, or perhaps you continue to fall short of the goals you are trying to achieve, then perhaps it is time to close the door on something before you go through a new one. Chances are you will be much happier with your outcome.